Should You Allow Children at Your Long Island Wedding?
Planning for a child-friendly wedding is pretty easy. All you need is a good babysitter, toys, videos, snacks, and a designated play area. You can also ask the babysitter to drive the kids home for weddings that run past their bedtimes. Most of the Long Island weddings I’ve photographed have been held at child-friendly venues that are happy to help. Allowing children at your wedding provides an opportunity for them to meet their newly expanded family and friends.
Depending on whether the children are old enough to remember attending your wedding, it can be an opportunity for them to view weddings in a positive light, and as something to look forward to in their own lives. Feeling the warmth and acceptance of old and new family members may also give children an added sense of security, and belonging.
Of course, if you’re having a small wedding at an upscale restaurant, or perhaps a New York City wedding in a venue that’s not very child-friendly, then asking family and guests to leave the kids at home might be the best choice. As an alternative, the children can be included in other wedding related events such as an engagement party, family gathering, or at the rehearsal dinner.
Brides and grooms should never be “guilt-tripped” or criticized for their wedding choices. Unless lines of exclusion are crossed such as not inviting a sibling and their spouse to your own kid’s rehearsal dinner—then understanding is a good policy. Every couple should be able to pursue their own dream wedding visions.
10 Tips for Allowing Kids at Your Wedding
In general, flower girls and ring bearers—age permitting—should be allowed at your wedding reception.
Hire an on-site babysitter to help look after the younger kids. You may need more than one.
Enlist the help of willing teenage wedding guests with babysitting skills, and be sure to pay them well. Avoid asking teenagers who think they’re too old and all grown up to babysit.
Try to arrange for designated play and rest areas with snacks and kid-friendly videos.
Ask the wedding venue to provide a kids menu with things like chicken nuggets, french fries, and pizza.
Remind parents to pack some of the their children’s favorite toys, and pajamas for weddings that end late.
Consider scheduling the cutting of the cake earlier than normal for parents who may wish to leave early.
Give the children disposable cameras so they can have fun taking photos of themselves and the wedding guests.
If you providing wedding favors for guests at the end of your reception, be sure to create some kid-friendly wedding favors as well.
Some wedding DJs play the pass-the-dollar game at the end of the reception, with the winner getting to take home the floral centerpiece. You can create a kid’s version of this game, where each kid “wins” something.
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